I’ve noticed lately how letting go of expectations and letting go, looking at the bigger picture really serves me.
This may sound obvious, I mean how many times have we been told by someone in life ‘If you look at the bigger picture/grand scale of things….things are actually pretty good’. So I’m not saying this is anything new, though I want you go through some examples with me and explore this more.
Ok all these times involve money, maybe you can relate that the prices of things along the way in what wherever we are or what we are doing really impact on our task and enjoyment.
I went to Wales on a trip, I drove over 108 miles to my first Sikhi camp and I already knew there was a toll bridge, it would cost £6.50. That’s fine though I kept extra money thinking I’d pay that on the way back too (I didn’t). Instead of mumbling and grumbling about money I saw the bigger picture – I had paid to go across a magnificent bridge! It was wonderful, I never imagined driving as far or driving down somewhere, that felt like I was in a movie scene. I really was magical. I enjoyed it both times, similar to how you pay to get into a movie, sit down and enjoy – I did the same here.
Another time I used the mall parking to do some shopping, eat out at my favourite sour dough pizza place and watch a movie. It was a few days before my birthday and I wanted a date night to myself. I got to the mall parking, put in my ticket and was charged £12! £12!!! Well, I had been over 4 hours, though when you know you could just used a pre topped up bus pass…. I got to my car and the carpark was almost empty, it was great as there was no rushing or squeezing out of a space to be careful of other cars or pedestrians. I put my music on loud and sang all the way home at the top of my lungs. Wow, there’s something you can’t do on a bus ride home. When you look at the bigger picture, no rushing, no waiting for public transport and a sing a long, did I really just pay for somewhere to park my car, no – I paid for the whole experience!
‘The big picture doesn’t just come from distance; it also comes from time’ – Simon Sinek
Lastly I went to a fireworks display that the time it took to wrap up in layers of warm clothing, get there and get back was longer than the actual display! And the finale was when the most incredible fireworks were set off. Though again, it was the getting there the sing along in the car that made it a wonderful time (that’s also why people stand behind the fence or watch fireworks from bedroom windows).
When you enjoy every moment, see the bigger picture and are grateful for the whole experience, peace comes quicker and easier and it really is a wonderful life.