Last week I had three days of interruption-free time, it was just S.Kaur and me in the what is usually a busy house. I hadn’t made any solid plans, it was three days before payday and we were set to go to a family wedding at the weekend, I wrote about budgeting that road trip.
I’ve let a lot of hang-ups go about what my friend calls ‘communal living’ but here I had an opportunity to write in a free moment and watch TV on a big screen too, even in the evening if I wanted. No one was here!
The first day I worked in the 20 minutes of silence I had while she slept, I drafted a poster I want to put onto A4 page while she was busy playing and I right next to her.
Then an interesting thing happened, I started to binge-watch on the big screen and six episodes in, I saw my whole vibration change in a really bad way.
When I was pregnant with S.Kaur, overdue by 10 days, I watched a lot of Netflix and films, nothing too heavy or it set off my unsteady emotions but Workin Moms and Steve Martin in Father of the Bride 1 and 2 were my saving graces.
Here’s how it happened the other day, I saw Workin Moms had a new season, and another too – GREAT! I started watching it and an episode in I could tell it was going to lead to lots of other stories from people’s past to the now, it was interesting and fun. Then came a few more till I noticed it had gotten sexual and disturbing. I watched another just to get over that one and give it another chance which in turn was worse than the one before. The last episode I watched hit a nerve, it crossed a line and freaked me out, so I stopped.
I did go onto watch Steve Martin and Martin Short – A night you will forget for the rest of your life, a stand up show that uplifted my fledging spirit and brought me full circle.
Though I realized something, I had been through this exact thing before, the only difference being before I was on the outside looking in. This time I was the one binge-watching.
Lesson 1: Don’t carry on watching a show if it sucks, if it’s so bad you just want to watch one more episode just to see, just to see if it is bad. It’s bad, get over it and go and do something else instead.
Another trend I noticed happening was day time TV watching, just because I could. Not only is that a bad habit and takes my focus away from our baby rolling a ball with a bell in it across her face and onto a colorful mat repeatedly which is cute. It also completely changes my energy for the day. Think about it, when you watching stand up comedy with a host of topics from spiritual – sex (Simon Amstell – Set free is a good example) it’s as if you’ve programmed your mind to be on that wavelength all day. It also ruined my focus on getting stuff done on my task list whatever the task, it didn’t matter if it was a mundane task in the kitchen, everything fell apart.
Lesson 2: Even if there’s no space to unwind in front of the television in the evening (we have yet to purchase our sofa) or before bed as I’m too tired, doesn’t mean you need to insert it in the day, what could be your most productive hours. Watching TV just isn’t a priority anymore for me, things will get better on the home front, with a little patience and savings goals achieved.
I’m not for or against watching Television, it can be a great form of entertainment, laughter therapy releasing stress and you find relatable characters, clever storytelling, and useful content.
If you don’t feel any of the above, then you’re doing it wrong.
Lesson three 3: Get into movement, move from a stagnant position and do something different. Whether it be a workout like fitness blender on Youtube to up your heart rate or do something different! Anything! Move around the house, switch up your task list to what you can do at the moment or go for a walk.
Keeping it moving, flowing in movement is a key tool I go to time and time again! Develop your awareness and get intentional.
I’m currently 5/40 days into Kirtan Kriya and it’s bringing interesting changes. I see why people go on about it bringing up past and exes as I’ve thought through situations from the past more than usual, terms like complacent control describe how life used to be. Yogigems writes about her 40 days here, she’s doing it again this time 1000 days!
I thought about cutting TV out for the 40 days, I’ve come to learn to practice no attachment to watching it at a certain time because 99 percent of the time I can’t (I also don’t pay anything for it wahoo) if I do and can’t, I just get upset by it. Instead, I am focusing on TV and videos as resources, resources to make me laugh, to inspire, to raise awareness and set of positive ripples of intention in action.
Top things I’ve watched on purpose this week: