I finally listened to Tom Hanks interview on Beautiful writers podcast, it was full of little nuggets of wisdom such as a reminder to get off your phone and be present and inspired to whats around you or chose the paperback in your bag over a phone app.
After a few weeks of not feeling creatively myself, I wrote about it here, I made a bunch of prompt cards to write my own healthy empowering solutions for when I’m feeling down n out. I made these into a (first ever!!) free printable, maybe it wasn’t the cards but an act of finishing and realising I can do more if I just work out how myself.
There’s a lot of wedding prep happening around here! This weekend is our Sikh ceremony and at the end of the month we will be Mr & Mrs on paper. It seems like just yesterday I was calling the registry office from our France trip explaining I couldn’t come any earlier to give notice BECAUSE IM IN FRANCE RIGHT NOW! I’m so grateful to family stepping in and helping all the way, we had wonderful pre wedding shoot in the woods with sony_dhillon_uk_ and I will share some of the mini-moons we have planned!
I’ve been making my way through a list of tear jerker movies, to hopefully watch more films full of themes, emotion and good writing. I started with Beaches (1988) a film on life, love and friendship. Bette Midler is a brilliant singer and performer, I do wonder if Lady Gaga got some of her inspiration from her. Last night I watched Dear John, another letter writing heart breaker that sent me to tears.
I really enjoyed reading Jen Morris’s article on travel (as well as catching up on her inspiration posts), differently to her I did travel before my twenties mainly Asia, Amsterdam and went Wild Camping. Last year I visited places in the UK – Birmingham, Edinburgh and Prague in Europe on my own for the first time and most recently France. However I too would like to jet away like before only this time it would be Italy. If only for the pizza, pasta and taking photographs. I know the money, practicality and circumstances have changed so travel plans will go on hold for now. If there’s one thing I’ve learnt especially after going to Prague after years of thinking about it – it’s worth it. Worth the wait, worth saving, it’s like that one thing you save up to buy and appreciate way more than if you have a lot of money and make multiple not well thought out purchases. Hold it, it will happen. There’s also more options out there for the now then you first realise; beaches I’ve never been to, tree houses to stay in and airstreams too in the UK! It’s all possible.
Through the divine powers of the internet I was reading posts on Original Impulse by Cynthia Morris and came across a Good Life Project videos, with another Cynthia, Cynthia Pasquella-Garcia a nutrition and life coach. Usually this kind of thing wouldn’t interest me much but it feels like it came at the right time as I’m getting back to healthy eating again and her message was powerful it went beyond food and straight to soulful living.
I’ve been talking with someone about their journey of difficulties with a family member and it reminds me of my Nana who had Dementia. One key theme was that memories were forgotten and material items didn’t matter anymore. We don’t live in a ‘when I get older and retire I will do A,B,C till my dieing day’ and I often wonder if there is research to why people of that generation go that way, I mean there must be some similarities in lifestyle? The point I got to was if you don’t have memories or material things as your focus what are you left with – the present moment and living in the now.
I caught up reading Bird by Bird and there was a chapter themed on the above, about how a nurse commented about her dieing friend, she’s teaching you how to live. That’s how I feel about my friend Marc, when I casually say he taught me a lot, that’s what I really mean. In the book she goes on to ask – what would you do today if you were going to die tomorrow? It doesn’t have to be grand but it may make you alter your to do list.
Another (last example) I listened to The day before you came the newer version by Meryl Streep and the original ABBA track too. It dramatically shows how music can change the entire feel of lyrics, instead of her telling us what she’s done the day previous casualy, it’s as if now were being told what’s happened the day before death came. I listened to it thinking – Wow I wonder what will be in my day before? I get to chose how mundane or exciting it is! My friend Marc had a hard time of it in the last few weeks and days before, I was there supporting. But the day before he had a great time doing what he loved most (cinema!), chatting and laughing with friends and family. That’s what I hold on to, his last day was happiness for him. Choose meaning and what’s important to you.